Since the dawn of civilization, men have been waging war, traveling thousands of miles from home and leaving their beloved spouses behind for months at a time. Shortly thereafter, these mighty warriors began begging their wives (via papyrus, I suppose) to send “romantic” letters to get them through the long, lonely nights.

When my husband was deployed to Iraq last year, he was no different. As a caring, modern male who was looking at a long year of abstinence, he felt that we could use this time apart to learn more about each other, sharing our deepest desires and our secret fantasies using the intimate medium of e-mail…